Comments on: Are You Too Nice?

By: little sheep

little sheep — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 20:27:10 +0000

thanks!

By: Sandy Weiner

Sandy Weiner — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 18:40:10 +0000

I have learned to hold back on some of the deeper stuff, such as losing a child, from the beginning. It's more about slowly easing in to a person's life, and I don't think they can handle so much of the pain before they know you. It's almost like going on a job interview and revealing your divorce and dysfunction before they appreciate who you are and what you can contribute to the job. Sometimes a work situation never warrants such a deep personal revelation.

By: Sid

Sid — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 18:27:42 +0000

That's pretty much what I mean… what kinds of things would you not reveal from the start?

By: Sandy Weiner

Sandy Weiner — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:50:29 +0000

Hi,
I just went to your website and it sounds like you have come a long way through a lot of pain. It's important to heal before you date, as I am sure you know. Thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving a thoughtful comment. I wish you a lot of luck and blessings. .
Sandy

By: Sandy Weiner

Sandy Weiner — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:47:12 +0000

Hi Sid,
I like what you said about authentically showing up as all of you. No surprises because you have suppressed a part of you at the beginning. I think it's important not to reveal everything from the gate, but not to come off as someone else just to impress someone. Is that what you mean?

By: little sheep

little sheep — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 10:07:21 +0000

wow. i'm not dating now, but it's definitely something to keep in mind for the future…

By: Sid

Sid — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 07:32:18 +0000

Thanks Sandy… being myself means being authentic… not censoring myself because I'm worried they might not like parts or all of the real me. If I censor myself, then they won't get to know me for who I really am… over time I may ease more into myself… then it looks like I've changed, and they may not like this “new” Sid.

By: Sandy Weiner

Sandy Weiner — Mon, 31 May 2010 19:13:56 +0000

Hey Sid,
I love how you take full responsibility for your feelings and emotions and vice versa. Curious as to what 'be myself' means to you.
Thanks for your thoughtful comment.
Sandy

By: Sid

Sid — Mon, 31 May 2010 19:03:36 +0000

Non-Negotiable

1. Be myself.
2. I'm in charge of my own feelings and emotions.
3. They are themselves.
4. They're in charge of their own feelings and emotions.
5. We're both happy most of the time.