How do you know if he’s the ‘one’? Have you been on so many bad dates, that the thought of getting dressed for another one feels like work? Many singles are disgusted with the dating scene. It feels so unnatural to date someone you met online, and yet, there are hundreds of thousands of singles registered on online dating sites. Not to mention the sleazy married people masquerading as singles. What’s a girl or guy to do in order to increase their dating success?
The unfortunate thing is that if you don’t date, you’ll probably never find the ‘one’. He will not be beating down your door any time soon. You will probably not be meeting her in a grocery store or at the library. But meeting the right person is only half the battle. The more important piece in solving the dating dilemma is making yourself the ‘one’, the one you love hanging out with, the one who is doing what makes her/himself happy and fulfilled. Because if you don’t love yourself, you are not so lovable.
One of my favorite Sesame Street memories is the “One of these things doesn’t belong here” segment, where you have to guess which object doesn’t fit. This is a great way to look at dating. If you don’t date a lot, you won’t know what doesn’t fit. And if you don’t know yourself, you won’t know what DOES fit. You may even miss the ‘one’ when he or she shows up.
So be sure to be actively involved in activities that make you happy. Don’t put off the big dream, whether it’s writing a book, taking a class in something you’ve always wanted to know more about or be better at. Travel. Read. You will become interesting. You will set yourself apart from others. And you will have a much easier time recognizing the ‘one’ when they show up at the library or the grocery store in front of you in the ‘ten items or less’ aisle. Or more realistically, when you see their profile online.
The more you love yourself, the more irresistible you will be!
